What Is Your “Elephant Tether”?
By Bob Cox

Did you know that elephants are trained to stay where they are by tying a rope around one of their massive legs and attaching it to a peg in the ground? Can the peg and rope really hold back an elephant? Absolutely not!

Then why does it work? Because elephants grow up believing it will. Maybe they tried pulling away when they were young with no success. Maybe they were injured by their action. After enough failures, they stop trying. They no longer test the restraint, and confine themselves when tethered to the rope.

During the course of my life and career I have run into many people (and no doubt will run into many more) who are holding themselves captive with their own “elephant tether.”

Cheryl, for example, one of my co-workers years ago, was limiting herself and her goals by always seeking approval from her mother before taking action. Cheryl was a grown woman with a husband, two children, and a nice career. However, she felt the need to filter every decision through her mother. She was still trying to play by her mother’s rules – instead of making her own.

I don’t think Cheryl realized her mother was the peg and rope preventing her from pursuing her own idea of a happy, fulfilling life. I mean, so what if Mom doesn’t approve of your kids eating hot dogs or staying up past 8:00 p.m. on a school night?

But following guidelines set by your parents isn’t the only “elephant tether” that could be keeping you from achieving what you want out of life. Maybe it’s one of these:

1. The Reactive Tether

The hustle and bustle of “normal” life often sets up the reactive tether. Your in-laws announce an unexpected visit, so you immediately change your plans to accommodate them. Your co-worker calls in sick on the day of an important client presentation, so you call the client and cancel. Whenever you notice that your car is down to a quarter tank of gas, you can’t concentrate on anything else until you get it filled.

These are just a few examples of situations that can make you fall victim to the reactive tether.

By panicking instead of taking control, you are sabotaging yourself. Is this a good time for the in-laws to visit? If it is not, simply tell them – and offer alternate dates. If your co-worker called in sick, decide whether you’d rather reschedule the presentation or handle it yourself. And if you’re always worried about running out of gas, all you have to do is implement a new routine of never letting the gas gauge go below half a tank.

2. The Full Disclosure Tether

It amazes me how often people feel they need to explain, in great detail, why they can’t do something or be somewhere. In both business and social environments, the person requesting an answer to an “Are you available?” question is really only looking for a Yes or No. If you give them more than that, what you’re really doing is making excuses to yourself.

The best response is either “Yes, count me in” or “No, I have a conflict.” And then go silent. If you can’t make it, the other person will likely suggest an alternate date and time … and everyone moves on.

3. The Shyness Tether

Business seems to be the one place where shy people can just as easily shake or shine. Many shy people (and we all have our shy moments) thrive in the business world because it gives them a “role” to play. As long as they are acting “on behalf of” or in the best interests of the company, they find the strength to do great things.

If the shyness tether is inhibiting your success, you can learn to push that discomfort aside. One way is to give yourself a mental cue – such as “It’s showtime!” – to legitimize the bold action you know you should be taking.

Test this self-imposed barrier. You might surprise yourself. Don’t retreat from any opportunity to discuss team projects or hold yourself back from networking at company events.

The power of “elephant tethers” to restrain you is only in your imagination. YOU have the power to free yourself from them to enjoy life and achieve your goals.

Of course, there will always be boundaries and rules that have to be followed. Judicial laws aside … most of the others are just guidelines. I mean, think about it. Is there a rule against singing too loud in church? Not really. Your spouse may nudge you to tone it down, but it is unlikely that you will be asked to leave.

Don’t get me wrong. I am actually a big follow-the-rules guy. Why? Because I like structure in my life, and most rules are those I would choose to follow anyway. Yet I don’t accept the notion that I have to follow all rules all the time.

Examine your life for self-imposed “rules” you are following that are holding you back. Test them. Think how to break free of them. Create better rules to live by and see your progress grow.

Hope you like it and be inspired to find your own freedom to move forward.

Daniel

Most people don’t have to fear success, because they don’t understand it.

They don’t appreciate how painful it is for you to keep dropping the ball just when you were about to carry it across the line. They don’t understand why someone with your abilities keeps messing up terrific opportunities. It’s a mystery to you too.

You know you’re gifted, because you get noticed. You’ve been offered a lot of chances, and the people who’ve offered them weren’t wrong. They saw what you were capable of. Yet whenever you get near what you want, something happens – you lose focus at a crucial moment and turn your energy to something unimportant, or your mood mysteriously drops and you get tired just when you need energy the most.

You’ve got to find out what that something is, because what you don’t know is hurting you. Take a careful look at your life and you’ll probably see a history of missed opportunities that stretches all the way back to your childhood.

Your past won’t determine your future if you can find out why you have such an odd relationship with success.

Here are Three Ways to Overcome Fear of Success:

1. Continually tell yourself that you welcome challenges. Stand ready and willing to challenge yourself to your maximum capacity. Move forward in your communication by deleting all negative self-talk.

2. Believe that whatever you set out to accomplish, you will give it one-hundred percent. Stop providing excuses to blame yourself, becoming disempowered from achieving your goals and increasing your self-esteem. Believe that your “pride of accomplishment” motivates you to eliminate all the “shoulds,” “oughts,” and “musts,” from your vocabulary.

3. Be the best you can. Continually “see” yourself in an evolving way. Stretch every mental, emotional, and physical fiber within you. Believe and feel that you are one dynamite, ecstatic, and powerful person. Remember, your beliefs impact the way you feel and act.

How would your life look, feel and sound if you could Feel Great For No Particular Reason at the flick of a switch?

Success is Yours,
Daniel

Did you set a goal early this year? Well, did you get what you want by now – after so many months of working hard for it? Apparently, most people don’t and that’s the problem with setting goals.

We cannot be setting goals with the intention of trying to get what we want because that will become a chasing game which will wear you out. Maybe not for you, but I know I will when I’m chasing ’something’. The goal must be a part of us. My goal is to become who I want and where I want to be mentally and physically.

Your goals must be something that you achieve internally so that you can see it, taste it, smell it and feel it.

Wealth. Love. Connection. Knowledge. Experience.

If you were to evaluate what’s success, it boils down to being happy.

I’m not trying to play Zen Master here but to make a point how we make our lives complicated without understanding the true purpose of our action. Life doesn’t have to be that way.

There are a few things I’ve learned from observations and experiencing this year and I’m glad to share them with you today. Who knows, they may give you a shortcut for your journey to obtain the success you’re seeking…

i. Your mind attracts what you want. This year, I have my fair share of enjoying successes and experiencing setbacks in life. And when I sit back to think about it, they come in ’sequences’. Once I’ve gained success, I’ll have the momentum to get another one. When I failed and stay in that state, another failure will come again. I don’t know, some called it Law of Attraction. To me, I strongly believe that you get what you want based on what your mind thinks because it ‘attracts’.

ii.  There’s one time Grandma falls sick and stayed in the hospital for couple of days. When I visited her in the hospital, I felt blessed that she’s still in this beautiful world. Although it’s nothing serious, but my heart tells me one thing- nothing in this world will give me the same love and relationship I have with her.

There are only two factors that will remove your love and relationship with someone you care about- when he/she is no longer here or you have ignored the treasure you have today for something that is less valuable but perceived to be valuable. Let me warn you– once they’re gone, they’re gone. You should know who to call, hug or kiss by now.

iii. Know your roots. If you’re successful today, you’re probably once a ‘nobody’. Always be humble because it will give you more success in life. I mean, isn’t that how you got to where you are today? Knowing your roots also means remembering those who have supported you when you’re growing and stayed by your side through thin and thickness. They are just there because they want to be there for you with no other hidden expectations.

iv. Explore life like there’s no ending. Listen to new music. Visit new places. Eat at new restaurants. Play new sports. Meet new people. And an endless list of things you can do regardless of whether you’re wealthy or not. You see, money doesn’t stop you from exploring life. Obviously, you can’t do the many things that Bill Gates or Richard Branson can do but there are easily hundreds of things you can do with what you have today. Do you know why we live? I don’t have the answer but I’m 100% sure it’s not to work and whine about what we don’t have.

v. Life is great. As I’m writing this, I’m in my new condominium with nice yellow lightings, listening to a wonderful music and my wife is making a cup of coffee for me. I can feel the cool breeze coming in from the balcony while sitting on a soft brand new, purple sofa. In front of me, I can see a mirror- and when I looked deep; I thank God for giving me this amazing life. Not because my Ego’s saying I have an amazing life, but it’s really true.

You have an amazing life whether you want to admit it or not. There are people sleeping on the streets today, wandering to look for food and so on. Because you’re reading this, I dare to assume that you have a computer- which also means that you’re under a roof and are an educated person. You have eyes to read and a wonderful brain to think. For that, life is already great. The rest are bonuses.

Some might complain about being financially broke. You can be broke but you can never be poor because being broke is a temporarily state that can be changed. It might not be now but with sheer persistence and effort combined with using the right information and a willingness to take action, it’s just a matter of time before you look back satisfied and said, “I was once broke but now, I’m wealthy and living the life I’ve always wanted.” Does that sound good? Then, why not make it a reality because you can.

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Patric Chan is an international speaker, author and the founder of The Success Trace Private Membership. Find out what are his other success strategies and get free gifts from Patric at
http://invisiblewealthsecret.com/successtrace

His method was to go into a room every morning before breakfast and take a mental inventory of his business as he had left it the evening before, and then enlarge upon it.

He said he expanded and expanded in this way until his affairs were in remarkably successful condition.

He would see himself in his office doing everything that he wanted done.

His occupation required him to meet many strangers every day. In his mental picture he saw himself meeting these people, understanding their needs and supplying them in just the way they wished.

This habit, he said, had strengthened and steadied his will in an almost inconceivable manner.

Furthermore, by thus mentally seeing things as he wished them to be, he had acquired the confident feeling that a certain creative power was exercising itself, for him and through him, for the purpose of improving his little world.

In “Your Invisible Wealth”, you’ll learn how to put this ‘visualization process’ on steroids and finally get all that your heart desires.

I highly recommend you download it now if you haven’t already done so.

Success is Yours,

Daniel

Wishing will not bring riches.

But desiring riches with a state of mind that becomes an obsession, then planning definite ways and means to acquire riches, and backing those plans with persistence which does not recognize failure, will bring riches.

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The method by which DESIRE for riches can be transmuted into its financial equivalent, consists of six definite, practical steps, viz:

1. Fix in your mind the exact amount of money you desire. It is not sufficient merely to say “I want plenty of money.” Be definite as to the amount. (There is a psychological reason for definiteness which will be described in a subsequent chapter). 

2. Determine exactly what you intend to give in return for the money you desire. (There is no such reality as “something for nothing”.)

3. Establish a definite date when you intend to possess the money you desire.

4. Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire, and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action.

5. Write out a clear, concise statement of the amount of money you intend to acquire, name the time limit for its acquisition, state what you intend to give in return for the money, and describe clearly the plan through which you intend to accumulate it.

6. Read your written statement aloud, twice daily, once just before retiring at night, and once after arising in the morning. AS YOU READ – SEE AND FEEL AND BELIEVE YOURSELF ALREADY IN POSSESSION OF THE MONEY.

It is important that you follow the instructions described in these six steps. It is especially important that you observe, and follow the instructions in the sixth paragraph.

You may complain that it is impossible for you to “see yourself in possession of money” before you actually have it.

Here is where a BURNING DESIRE will come to your aid.

If you truly DESIRE money so keenly that your desire is an obsession, you will have no difficulty in convincing yourself that you will acquire it.

The object is to want money, and to become so determined to have it that you CONVINCE yourself you will have it.

Only those who become “money conscious” ever accumulate great riches.

“Money consciousness” means that the mind has become so thoroughly saturated with the DESIRE for money, that one can see one’s self already in possession of it.

To the uninitiated, who has not been schooled in the working principles of the human mind, these instructions may appear impractical.

It may be helpful, to all who fail to recognize the soundness of the six steps, to know that the information they convey, was received from Andrew
Carnegie, who began as an ordinary laborer in the steel mills, but managed, despite his humble beginning, to make these principles yield him a fortune of considerably more than one hundred million dollars.

It  may  be  of  further  help  to  know  that  the  six  steps  here recommended were carefully scrutinized by the late Thomas A. Edison, who placed his stamp of approval upon them as being, not only the steps essential for the accumulation of money, but necessary for the attainment of any definite goal.

The steps call for no “hard labor.”

They call for no sacrifice.

They do not require one to become ridiculous, or credulous.

To apply them calls for no great amount of education.

But the successful application of these six steps does call for sufficient imagination to enable one to see, and to understand, that accumulation of money cannot be left to chance, good fortune, and luck.

One must realize that all who have accumulated great fortunes, first did a certain amount of dreaming, hoping, wishing, DESIRING, and PLANNING before they acquired money.

If you do not see great riches in your imagination, you will never see them in your bank balance.

It’s time to make your invisible wealth visible…

Success is YOURS,

Daniel

Successful goal setting is an ongoing and interactive process between you and the world. It is not a routine work. Goal setting generates out of your own need for achievement and the self-drive for achievement is natural. When you set goal, it motivates you physically, mentally and emotionally. Achieving your goals helps to get rid of your own fears and sustain your self-confidence. You begin to feel more associated to yourself and the world.

There are 7 steps to focus on your goals and plan your success. It is important to include them in your goal setting process.

1. Identify your goal. Make it a realistic goal and important to you. This is one of the most essential things you need to do for yourself. The goal that you choose to work on must be within your ability to achieve it and be able to lock into your mind.

2. Well-defined goals with a time frame. You will not know whether you have accomplished your goals or not if you do not define exactly what they are and set a time frame. Always focus on what you want, and not on what you don’t want.

3. Make sure goal setting is specific. For example, choose a skill like “Managing your time more efficiently by stating a time and date for getting your goal accomplished.” Selecting a goal you can do something about gives you the power and influence to actively and assertively accomplish your goal.

4. Set goals that are exciting and meaningful to you. This way, you will be self-motivated to achieve them.

5. Act upon your goals. There is no sense in having a goal if you do not want to go after it.

6. Experience how your feelings and thoughts are pulled by your stated goals. Enjoy a sense of fulfillment whenever you take a step towards achieving your goal.

7. Reward yourself for every goal that gets completed. Remember to be consistent when rewarding yourself to give yourself a sense of achievement.

One of the most critical things for choosing a goal is that it must be important to you and start planning. A plan is a powerful tool to achieve success as it keeps you on track and gives you direction similar to a road map. Planning for success avoids unnecessary loss of focus and helps you take responsibility for your actions. Think of it as a master key that helps to unlock your mind and achieve your goals.

Success is YOURS,

Daniel

Every single person has the capability to be successful in every area of his or her life. Successful people adopts a certain personality profile. They think, talk and act in certain particular ways. All of which can be condensed into 7 success principles.

Act on them with faith, persistence and determination and in no time you will become a winner like other successful people! Here are the 7 success principles:
 
 Success Principle # 1 – Set a clear vision
 
 This is the starting point to success. Think through and develop a clear vision of what exactly you want to achieve in your life. One example is you want to be a surgeon and carry this vision in your mind at all times.
 
 Success Principle # 2 – Define your goal
 
 The vision you set is the ultimate destination which in this example is to be a surgeon. The goal sets the journey, both long and short term, you need to take in order to arrive at the destination. Using the example assuming you’ve just completed your secondary education, what you need to do next is to enroll in a course in a junior college that on completion will qualify you to pursue a course in medicine in a university.
 
 Other consideration for the short term journey includes the need to obtain or set aside the necessary finance to complete your medical studies in the university. These are the short term goals you need to formulate after thinking through in order for you to arrive at your final destination. Short term goals are like the resources you need to reach your final destination. Your goals should be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely. They are the stepping-stones toward the realization of your vision.
 
 Success Principle # 3 – Plan your work and work your plan.
 
 Work out a plan of action to reach both the short and long term goals. Break down your plan into smaller tasks or units especially if the task is too big. Sometimes you’ve to take a detour or longer time to reach one of your journeys. It’s ok. Do it. Example if you didn’t do well in one subject in junior college which is a compulsory subject for admission to the university medical course, you may have to do supplementary studies or repeat that subject. Be conscious of your vision at all times. When you act with faith, determination, persistence and in alignment with your short and long term goals there is only one outcome – success in achieving your vision.
 
 Success Principle # 4 – Commit to action.
 
 Make a firm commitment to action. Once you take action, stay committed and never give up. Once you deter in your commitment, your belief becomes shaky and unstable. If you do that, your effort would just fall off like a deck of cards. You would have wasted all your time and energy you have invested on your efforts. So stay committed.
 
 Never give up until you have achieved what you desire. Take on every obstacle that you may encounter in your stride. Faith and persistence are keys to success. Treat every failure or obstacle as a learning experience or opportunity.
 
 Success Principle # 5 – Use positive affirmations.
 
 Form and write your positive affirmations that supports the vision you’ve set in # 1 using short positive direct phrases in the present tense only. Make a habit of repeating affirmations several times each day especially just before sleeping (while lying on bed) and just waking (but still in bed). Say and repeat your affirmations mentally or aloud if it doesn’t disturb others. This will help to maintain your faith and persistence!
 
 Success Principle # 6 – Eliminate negative influences.
 
 Stay away from negative influences such as negative people, books, articles and etc. Surround yourself with things and people that boost your belief that you will succeed.
 
 Believe without any doubt that you would achieve your dream. Believe in a higher power residing in self that has been giving you whatever you need.
 
 Success Principle # 7 – Maintain an attitude of gratitude.
 
 Have faith that your vision is becoming a reality. Look around you and be grateful for things that you already have such as a home, loving family, etc. Just stay grateful. Give your time, money and service to others in need. Be kind and generous to all.
 
 Now you know the 7 principles of success. Act on them with faith, persistence and determination and you will soon be one of the successful people.

Success is YOURS,

Daniel

P.S. Again, I invite you to go to:
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(You really need to visit the site!)

And read it yourself how the Success Principle has empowered my friend to become the person he WANTED to be, instead of what people judge him to be.

Robert Kiyosaki and his team were the key speakers in this great and successful event. Robert Kiyosaki, author of “Rich Dad Poor Dad’ has, virtually single-handedly, challenged and changed the way tens of millions, around the world, think about money and success.

I am glad to participate in this event and just want to share some key points that I learnt.

The world is facing an economic crisis and you can not change the crisis. However, changing the way you respond to it is important so that you can rise above it and take the advantages to enhance your profit and growth.

The crisis has nothing to do with anything around you. It has to do with what goes on in your mind. That is where success or failure starts. Your perception of life will determine your performance and results.

This is the single most KEY factor how the rich get richer and how you can be rich too.

History has proven it and there will always be ordinally people on the street who take massive actions and make a difference.

Will you be the next successful story and models for the rest of the world to share with and learn from?

Success Is Yours,
Daniel

P.S. I invite you to go to:
http://invisiblewealthsecret.com/mentors
(You really need to visit the site!)

And read it yourself how the Mindset has empowered my friend to become the person he WANTED to be, instead of what people judge him to be.

P.P.S. I talk about “7 Universal Principles Of Success” adopted by successful people in next post.

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Money- It’s the universal currency that all civilized human beings are familiar with. So what is money? Or precisely, How do you “see” money?

Money means differently to everyone.

It can represent power and authority.

A measurement of success or contribution.

Maybe happiness?

Perhaps, some see it as only a piece of paper and they earn it just so that they can carry on with their lives. Once it’s finished spent, they’ll work again to earn it.

Now that you KNOW what money is, consider the difference between money and wealth. Money relates to your income where else wealth is define on the assets you have and how they’re being used.

True wealth has nothing to do with how much money you have in your bank or the car you drive. It’s the sense of well-being, knowing you are ‘rich’ – it does not need to be seen by anyone but just you.

As how many people view money in different ways, power, authority, happiness and so on – some also sees it as a ‘relationship’. Clarifying your relationship with money will determine whether money’s your master or slave – who’s controling who.

So is your relationship with money is something stressful or a healthy one?

You see, if it’s giving you negative impact, no wonder you’re not striking gold. Simply because your unconscious mind will ‘prevent’ you from pain and push it away. You’ve heard about this a million time so I’m not going to write more about it.

The only way for you to know the answer is to look in the mirror and face the truth – because all of us hated or feared money at one time or another in our life.

When I was broke, money means a lot to me but that does not means I like it. Because the lack of it, I suffered ‘pain’. I was broke. But noted that I was never poor. You can take my money away and make me broke, but I will strive to stand up and play the game of money again – and win because I now know how’s the game is being played. So the only way to overcome disassociation with money is to “ACCEPT” money into your life without fear or shame.

So if you want to be financially wealthy, don’t just sit and practice ‘law of attraction’? It’s more than that.

Here’s the combination to attract money:

Right Mindset + Right Attitude + A Solid Plan + Proven Techniques + Taking Actions = $$$ Into Your Pocket

Right mindset could be how to attract money into your life.

Attitude? You can start with being patient to obtain wealth.

Solid plan will mean knowing what you want to achieve and how you’re going to get there.

Techniques are yours to choose.

Taking actions need no explanatory and this is the part that most failed.

So what does money means to you and how you make it to be on your side? Your homework for today is to know this and it’ll definitely make you become a richer person.

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Patric Chan is an international speaker, author and the founder of The Success Trace Private Membership. Find out what are his other success strategies and get free gifts at http://invisiblewealthsecret.com/successtrace

To your success, Daniel